BIBLICAL PARENTING(PT 2)
HOW TO TRAIN YOUR CHILDREN BIBLICALLY:
Being a good parent is all about raising children who will follow your example in obeying and worshiping the Lord. Bellow are the ways to your biblically;
Ability to love, bond and to show love: Parent (especially mother) can express their love to their children behaviorally and verbally which is the first quality of a good parent. It could b expressed by telling the child that you love him/her thus instilling trust, self-esteem and compassion in that child- “That they may teach the young women to be sober; to love their husbands, to love their children- Titus 2:4 (KJV)”
Provision: Parent are to provide for their children needs, that is food, clothing and also a means to choose their own life vocational under God “But if any provide not for his own and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel” 1 Timothy 5:8 (KJV)
Walk the talk : What to do I mean by this – it means that as a parent you must be able to do as you expect your children to do, Unfortunately for most parents, the saying of “ Do as I say , not as I do” simply does not work. You must live by the rules you preach. Firstly, if you don’t want your children to lie, you should not warn them not to tell anybody that you are not at home or taking a “sick “ day from work, which in turn can let your child get out of school feigning illness. Secondly, if you don’t want your child turn to a back- bitter or gossiper, you should desist from gossiping or speaking ill/evil of your spouse or neighbor. So walk the talk and practice what you preach.
Building strong relationships with your children
Parent should build a strong relationship with their children by moving closer to them, thus giving them unconditional love and also provide consistent, firm and flexible discipline so they know what is expected of them.
Also, parent should listen to their children when they are upset without judgment. “And ye fathers (and mothers) provoke not your children to wrath; but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” – Ephe. 6:14.
Include your children in family discussions
Parent should include their children in family discussion thus using this as a way to show them how people can get along with others and work together.
Educate your children, if you don’t show interest in your children education, they will think otherwise and this may affect them. Ensure that your children are given total and all round education viz; (i) Christian education (ii) Moral or home education (iii) Formal or school education (iv) Vocational or skill acquisition education.
Always admit your own mistakes and talk about how you can correct them, take that as a responsibility. Do not blame everything that goes wrong on other people or circumstances. Do not transfer your aggression to your children.
Show kindness and respect to others in your words and your actions, thereby showing a good example for your children to follow. Mother especially respect their husbands. By respecting your husband, you teach your children how to respect and give honor to whom it is due.
Do your words indicate respect for difference and tolerance toward all people or do they subtly support lack of acceptance for others different from yourself?
Do you “bully” your children with harsh words and threats when they misbehave, or do you respond with discipline based on respect for your children is humanity.
Women (mothers) should therefore stand up to their task in raising Godly children. They should always be prayerful, teach them the word of God, let the word of God be their first meal. Let your God be their God. Let it be no prayer no food, by this they will easily emulate you and be a prayer warrior.
Learning experiences at childhood (planned or unplanned) go along way to shape the personality of a child for a lifetime. Efforts should be made to guide, shape and make them a wise unto salvation – II Timothy 3:15
It is therefore important to note as parent that child training cannot be taken in isolation but has to be in collaboration with parents, teachers and other caregivers.
What your children become tomorrow might be a reflection of who you are and this call for repentance at your own end. You cannot give what you don’t have; and you cannot bring up your child in the way of the Lord when you are still in sin because you will mislead them and God will not be happy.
“Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a milestone were hung around his neck; and he were drowned in the depth of the sea – St Mat. 18:6”. You need to make your ways right now before it is too late for you. REPENT and God bless you.
Being a good parent is all about raising children who will follow your example in obeying and worshiping the Lord. Bellow are the ways to your biblically;Ability to love, bond and to show love: Parent (especially mother) can express their love to their children behaviorally and verbally which is the first quality of a good parent. It could b expressed by telling the child that you love him/her thus instilling trust, self-esteem and compassion in that child- “That they may teach the young women to be sober; to love their husbands, to love their children- Titus 2:4 (KJV)”
Provision: Parent are to provide for their children needs, that is food, clothing and also a means to choose their own life vocational under God “But if any provide not for his own and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel” 1 Timothy 5:8 (KJV)
Walk the talk : What to do I mean by this – it means that as a parent you must be able to do as you expect your children to do, Unfortunately for most parents, the saying of “ Do as I say , not as I do” simply does not work. You must live by the rules you preach. Firstly, if you don’t want your children to lie, you should not warn them not to tell anybody that you are not at home or taking a “sick “ day from work, which in turn can let your child get out of school feigning illness. Secondly, if you don’t want your child turn to a back- bitter or gossiper, you should desist from gossiping or speaking ill/evil of your spouse or neighbor. So walk the talk and practice what you preach.
Building strong relationships with your children
Parent should build a strong relationship with their children by moving closer to them, thus giving them unconditional love and also provide consistent, firm and flexible discipline so they know what is expected of them.
Also, parent should listen to their children when they are upset without judgment. “And ye fathers (and mothers) provoke not your children to wrath; but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” – Ephe. 6:14.
Include your children in family discussions
Parent should include their children in family discussion thus using this as a way to show them how people can get along with others and work together.
Educate your children, if you don’t show interest in your children education, they will think otherwise and this may affect them. Ensure that your children are given total and all round education viz; (i) Christian education (ii) Moral or home education (iii) Formal or school education (iv) Vocational or skill acquisition education.
Always admit your own mistakes and talk about how you can correct them, take that as a responsibility. Do not blame everything that goes wrong on other people or circumstances. Do not transfer your aggression to your children.
Show kindness and respect to others in your words and your actions, thereby showing a good example for your children to follow. Mother especially respect their husbands. By respecting your husband, you teach your children how to respect and give honor to whom it is due.
Do your words indicate respect for difference and tolerance toward all people or do they subtly support lack of acceptance for others different from yourself?
Do you “bully” your children with harsh words and threats when they misbehave, or do you respond with discipline based on respect for your children is humanity.
Women (mothers) should therefore stand up to their task in raising Godly children. They should always be prayerful, teach them the word of God, let the word of God be their first meal. Let your God be their God. Let it be no prayer no food, by this they will easily emulate you and be a prayer warrior.
Learning experiences at childhood (planned or unplanned) go along way to shape the personality of a child for a lifetime. Efforts should be made to guide, shape and make them a wise unto salvation – II Timothy 3:15
It is therefore important to note as parent that child training cannot be taken in isolation but has to be in collaboration with parents, teachers and other caregivers.
What your children become tomorrow might be a reflection of who you are and this call for repentance at your own end. You cannot give what you don’t have; and you cannot bring up your child in the way of the Lord when you are still in sin because you will mislead them and God will not be happy.
“Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a milestone were hung around his neck; and he were drowned in the depth of the sea – St Mat. 18:6”. You need to make your ways right now before it is too late for you. REPENT and God bless you.
CREDIT: DEACONNESS DORCAS OJOBE
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